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  • “It’s about communicating with our kids,

    talking to them and listening to

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Who is the Family Answer Man?

Jay Fitter is a licensed family therapist with 20 years experience and answers your questions on all relationships issues.

Why He Does it…

My father had a 3rd grade education, and my mother 5th grade. My childhood was spent in poverty, moving in and out of apartments and motels. Much of our food came from church donations and we had used clothing.

My father was verbally and physically abusive and died when I was sixteen. I had already been working to help support the family, but after he passed , I had to work full time. My parents were told by school administrators when I was in elementary school that I was going to be a drop out. I attended in excess of twenty schools, often not even remembering what state I was in. There was virtually no adult guidance through my childhood and teen tears, as a result I made a lot of poor choices.

When I became an adult, I decided that I didn’t want to pass this kind of life on to my children.

I have seen the positive changes that have occurred in parents, kids, and even hard core gang members in juvenile hall. I know that we can’t change the past, but we don’t have to repeat it either.

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Ask Family Therapist, Jay Fitter through Facebook. Present your questions during a LIVE show and your answers may be aired.


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How many of you have children who receive presents for Christmas and then complained because they didn't get exactly what they wanted? Was your first inclination to tell them how ungrateful they are and that they should appreciate the gifts that they did receive? This can be very challenging for parents. You feel like you're trying to do the best for your children and yet it never seems to be enough. I have worked with wealthy parents who bought their children everything they asked for and still there was a sense of entitlement, and lack of appreciation.
As much as marketing agencies would like us to believe to the contrary, money is not the answer. I know this idea is like swimming upstream against the tide, but if you really think about it, did an expensive gift ever really improve the relationship between you and your child? For a short time they may be happy and more pleasant to be around, but it doesn't take long before thing settle back in to the way they were before.
If a gift were an expression of love, instead of the current status of your financial portfolio, then it really would be the thought, not the price tag that created its value.
Spending time with our children and talking about why we give gifts is a good way to start. Explaining the concept of "it's better to give than to receive" is another opportunity to breakaway from companies whose only purpose around the holidays is to make the biggest profit and inflate their bottom line. Maybe these kinds of sitdown discussions with our kids can actually bring about the change and appreciation that will last, like no gift ever can.

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Contact Mr. Jay Fitter on Facebook, Twitter, or through email.  To schedule an appointment, please contact Jay’s office phone number – (951) 272-8304

Jay’s office is located in Southern California.

jay [at] familyanswerman.com

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