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        Respect YOUR Children

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Who is the Family Answer Man?

Jay Fitter is a licensed family therapist with 20 years experience and answers your questions on all relationships issues.

Why He Does it…

My father had a 3rd grade education, and my mother 5th grade. My childhood was spent in poverty, moving in and out of apartments and motels. Much of our food came from church donations and we had used clothing.

My father was verbally and physically abusive and died when I was sixteen. I had already been working to help support the family, but after he passed , I had to work full time. My parents were told by school administrators when I was in elementary school that I was going to be a drop out. I attended in excess of twenty schools, often not even remembering what state I was in. There was virtually no adult guidance through my childhood and teen tears, as a result I made a lot of poor choices.

When I became an adult, I decided that I didn’t want to pass this kind of life on to my children.

I have seen the positive changes that have occurred in parents, kids, and even hard core gang members in juvenile hall. I know that we can’t change the past, but we don’t have to repeat it either.

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Family And Money:

Q. I put 40 acres of land in my son's name because I trusted him he sold it and kept the money and now I'm fighting cancer and he will not give me my half of the money and my husband is not very happy with this he says that my son is wrong I don't know what to do

A. The Bible says that the LOVE of money is the root of all kinds of evil. I think the greatest example of this, is when it comes to family. Money has a way of changing people. I have worked with fathers and sons, and brothers and sisters who would fight each other in court over a departed loved one's assets, or their share of a business. The sad part is that regardless of the outcome, nobody wins. These kinds of issues are extremely difficult, if not impossible to resolve, and heal within a family.
My advice is to stay away from any type of business transactions with family members. View everything as a gift, without any expectation of it being returned, or paid back. From this point of view, you can decide if you want to give a loved one a gift or not. It's unfortunate, but not unusual that your son has made this decision. Now you have a choice to make. You can either fight for what you believe it is rightfully yours, or move forward in an attempt to maintain a relationship with your son. I am in no way agreeing with his decision, but now you have to decide what is your ultimate goal. I hope that others who read this, will take it to heart, and not allow financial issues to infiltrate and possibly destroy their family.

If you know someone that may benefit from the information on this page, feel free to forward this post to them. To get all of my future posts, just "like" Family Answer Man on Facebook. I will attempt to answer all of your questions on Parenting, Relationships, and Children submitted in a timely manner. Send a private message if you don't want your name to be seen.

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Contact Mr. Jay Fitter on Facebook, Twitter, or through email.  To schedule an appointment, please contact Jay’s office phone number – (951) 272-8304

Jay’s office is located in Southern California.

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